Equality is the thing

“Equality,’ said Steerpike,’ is the thing. It is the only true and central premise from which constructive ideas can radiate freely and be operated without prejudice. Absolute equality of status. Equality of wealth. Equality of power.”

— Mervyn Peake, Titus Groan

This week’s Monday Meme was a tricky one for me, since it involved something I rarely do: watching TV. I think just about the only TV series I’ve kept a weather eye on lately has been Hannibal, and even then I only watched the first series. I’m woefully behind on it, as well as several other series that I keep meaning to watch.

Meme instructions: Take a picture in Second Life inspired by any television series. You can dress up your avatar or have decor that is similar. Don’t forget to leave a link to your image in the comments of this post and also share it in the Blog Memes Flickr Group.

Having exercised my brain to think of a TV character I wanted to portray, I could only come up with one (somewhat obvious) one: the delightfully wicked Steerpike, from Mervyn Peake’s incredible Gormenghast series of novels, which was adapted by the BBC back in 2000 and had an absolutely, gob-smackingly stellar cast of British acting talent; one of the best I’ve seen for any TV drama. How’s this for a list of names? — Jonathan Rhys-Meyers, Christopher Lee, Celia Imrie, Stephen Fry, Ian Richardson, Spike Milligan, Eric Sykes, Windsor Davies, Zoë Wanamaker, June Brown, Warren Mitchell—it’s like a Who’s Who of acting chops in the UK over the past 60 years.

Steerpike was played by Jonathan Rhys-Meyers (a favourite actor of mine ever since his turn as Brian Slade in Velvet Goldmine) and he brought that despicable kitchen boy-turned-royal advisor to life perfectly and chillingly. So this is my tribute to him.

“Glorious,” said Steerpike, “is a dictionary word. We are all imprisoned by the dictionary. We choose out of that vast, paper-walled prison our convicts, the little black printed words, when in truth we need fresh sounds to utter, new enfranchised noises which would produce a new effect. In dead and shackled language, my dears, you are glorious, but oh, to give vent to brand new sounds that might convince you of what I really think of you, as you sit there in your purple splendour, side by side! But no, it is impossible. Life is too fleet for onomatopoeia. Dead words defy me. I can make no sound, dear ladies, that is apt.”

“You could try,” said Clarice. “We aren’t busy.” She smoothed the shining fabric of her dress with her long, lifeless fingers.

“Impossible,” replied the youth, rubbing his chin. “Quite impossible. Only believe in my admiration for your beauty that will one day be recognized by the whole castle. Meanwhile, preserve all dignity and silent power in your twin bosoms.”

Steerpike was, of course, alive with ideas and projects. These two half-witted women were a gift. That they should be the sisters of Lord Sepulchrave was of tremendous strategic value. They would prove an advance on the Prunesquallors, if not intellectually at any rate socially, and that at the moment was what mattered. And in any case, the lower the mentality of his employers the more scope for his own projects.

“I’m as mad as mad can be. Watch me get your whole family! I’m as mad as mad can be. And you two and me make three…”

“Don’t be frightened, My Lord. It is only a boy from the kitchens…”

Studio shot:


Tunic: Stitched – Martin (black) [ adele.bumblefoot ]

Pants: Dragansvarg – Leather Pants Black (type 1, for boots) [ karigan.ducatillon ]

Boots: Hoorenbeek – Riding Boots (black) [ limer.fredriksson ]

Hair: Maitreya – Lotte (kala jeera) [ onyx.leshelle ]

Skin: KOOQLA – The Knight of the Rose (silver) [ rocketta.haven ]

Eyes: IKON – Sovereign Eyes (grey) [ ikon.innovia ]


Momomuller [ momomura.zehetbauer ]

Agapee [ argnit.igaly ]

(pda) – no longer available

Location: Forgotten City

‘Standard’ and proud of it

I wasn’t going to do this week’s Monday Meme (I didn’t do last week’s, either) because it’s all about mesh bodies, and I don’t own one. It’s also a “mesh body revolution” version of the “What’s Your Digits?” meme that I did way back here on Flickr in… Christ, 2011? Now I feel old :-(

But then, after I’d slept on it and woke up this morning with my knees giving me gyp (RL point of note: my knees are completely fucked, thanks to injuries sustained when I was younger), and plenty of crotchety thoughts running through my head as a result, I thought, “Hey, I do  have things to say about mesh bodies. They’re probably not going to be nice  things that other people will like, but since when has that stopped me from speaking up on my own damn blog before now?”

So, consider this as advance warning: This post was typed when in pain and feeling pretty annoyed about that fact. And I think my banner image sums up my feelings about mesh bodies nicely.

NOTE: Scroll down if you’re only interested in the fashion stuff :-)

Meme Instructions: Share your avatar’s digits and/or answer the following questions about mesh bodies. If you decide to share your digits, feel free to add your image to the Digits Flickr Group.

Do you currently own a mesh body? If so, do you wear it all the time or just once in a while? If not, skip to the fourth question.

No, I don’t. I’m surprised there’s not an extra part to this question for those that don’t  own a mesh body, so I’m going to add it below.  The reasons why people don’t  own mesh bodies are just as interesting to me as the thoughts of those who do, and without the possibility to air those thoughts I’ll admit that the meme felt very pro-mesh body, with those of us who have other feelings about them being ignored. I’m sure that wasn’t intentional, but I’m sorry; that’s how it came across to me. So here’s my addition to the meme:

If you don’t own a mesh body, why not?

*cracks knuckles* Where to begin?

There are currently four male mesh bodies on the market: Signature, Kauna, Tellaq, and TMP. Nobody but Signature themselves are making skin appliers for their mesh body, and the same goes for Kauna and Tellaq. I’ve tried a demo of the Signature body and had way too many issues (such as “severed head” syndrome) with it. I simply don’t like the shape and the look of the Kauna and Tellaq bodies. (Tellaq is far too muscular for Skell, plus it doesn’t have an alpha HUD. Sorry, but that’s a deal-breaker.) The hands on the Kauna avatar look decent, but oh man, the feet…

Now, as to TMP… I have some pretty strong feelings about this, and I’m not going to mince my words about them. I disagree strongly with their business practices. The whole issue of having to pre-load a card with money—money that you can only add in increments of round hundreds or thousands—and the fact that only the body itself costs a round number; with all the skins and appliers and other stuff costing random odd amounts such as L$375. Then there is the fact that, once it’s loaded onto your card, that money is non-refundable. If you loaded L$500 but only spent L$375, there is no way to get that spare L$125 back. You’re told that you can just add some more money to make it up to an amount you can spend, but every single amount  you can spend is oddly numbered. You will always  have a spare amount of non-refundable money on that card. Guess who has that money? Yep, TMP. Will they give it back? Nope; they’re “holding it for you”. In other words, you just stuck a couple of bucks in their hands, for free.

Then there is the fact that… you don’t even have the damn body in your inventory!  What fuckery is this, that you can make a purchase of that magnitude (I believe the full male body with the alpha HUD is L$5000, which—I would like to remind you—is approximately US$20 or £14) and you’re not permitted to have the object that you purchased in your inventory?! £14 is the price of a lunch, an “endless refill” coffee, and a couple of pints in my local Wetherspoons pub. Can you imagine ordering that, and the landlord giving you an empty plate, an empty pint glass, an empty mug, and a knife and fork and telling you, “Here’s your meal. We’re keeping your food, coffee, and beer behind the bar.”?

Thirdly, well I’m sorry, but I don’t know any  guy whose torso looks like that one, unless he’s spent an entire day tight-laced and has just taken the corset off. What the hell is with that torso pinching in under the ribcage like that? Just… NO.

I absolutely refuse to give TMP my custom. I refuse to even buy the demo (my opinions on the shape of it come from seeing other avatars wearing it).

And now I’m skipping to question 4.

How do you feel about mesh bodies in general?

Ambivalent, veering toward very very wary. I dislike intensely the way that mesh bodies are homogenising SL avatars, especially when combined with mesh heads (NONONO!). If I bought a mesh body (and it would have to be from another creator, not TMP) then the vast majority of my inventory would be useless, I would not be able to put together anywhere near  the number of individual looks that I currently can, and I would blend in nicely with the rest of the “normal”, perfect population. No thank you. I’ll stay lumpy, flawed, “standard”, and proud of it.

IF a decent mesh body (without a head) came out—Slink, I’m looking at you—then I would demo it, but as with all things in SL, I wouldn’t expect the same choice as female avatars get. Right now there are, at a rough guess, maybe five or six female mesh body options on the market (and probably a lot more, if you count the smaller stores’ options, and that’s not counting the various mesh boobs, butts, and god alone knows what else you ladies have to choose from), with appliers being made left, right, and centre for them. You ladies have oodles of choice when it comes to individualising your mesh bodies. Us guys are stuck with TMP as the “industry standard” (god help us) and from skimming my Flickr feed I’m seeing the same designers making the same male skin appliers, and… they all look so perfect, like smooth, anodyne androids. Yes, of course they’re beautiful. But that’s it. They’re all beautiful, and they’re all the same.

If there’s one thing I absolutely rail  against in SL, it’s sameness. We can be whatever and whoever the hell we want to be here, so why would we all want to look the same? Mesh clothing  is edging out fashion creativity and individuality enough as it is (just a glance at the average Mens Dept collection will show you the kind of mesh that’s being made for guys: hoodies, jeans, and sneakers galore), without mesh bodies and heads smoothing us out even more into bland perfection.

I’m not against  mesh bodies. If you have one and love it, then all power to you. SL is whatever we want, and I want to be individual, to be able to use any  of my 8-year-acquired inventory (including clothing layers), and to say “no thanks” to sameness.

What is one thing you would request from designers when it comes to mesh bodies?

More damned options of them for men! *sigh* Nobody’s bloody listening anyway, so I’m pretty much pissing into the wind. About the only versions I would opt for are either Slink or Belleza, and I’ve not heard a peep from either of those in months (Slink hands/feet updates notwithstanding). Belleza haven’t even released a new male skin  for probably over a year, so I guess they’re not really bothered about considering a male mesh body.

What I really bloody well want from mesh body parts is HEELED MESH FEET FOR MEN! C’mon, Siddean; please? *bats eyelashes*

Meh. Anyway, here are the digits for my non-mesh body revolution. Yeah, I’m feeling kinda snarky :p

Here’s the fashion stuff!

And now, onto the fashion stuff. Despite my bitching up there about “the average Mens Dept collection” this month’s actually yielded quite a bit of stuff that I could use. Consequently, purchases were made (unlike last month, where I barely bought a thing). Here’s an overview:

First up, though, new Exile hair. Gah! I always make with the grabbyhands when that dark grey sack lands in my inventory, and this choppy unisexy style for Collabor88 is no exception. I thought I’d go for a bit of colour this time (sit down, mother) so I’m wearing the “Sin” shade. I’ve picked that up a little in this necklace by CPD (Chaos, Panic, & Disorder!), by editing the thongs to be a similar shade:

I saved this outfit as “Skinny Little Goth Boy (2015 version)”. Wonder why? ;-)

This great layered tee by Razor is just L$79 at this month’s Mens Dept collection, and at that price it’s something you ought to pounce on with as much celerity as I did.

The makeup and nose chain are from a previous Secret Affair, and hopefully they’re now out in the relevant mainstores. Nail appliers by A:S:S, and the ring is by Mandala at The Mens Dept. The display is gold, but the HUD is hugely customisable, so don’t let the gold put you off it that’s not your colour. You also get the full set of jewellery for one really decent price.

Now, the skin. Oh man, the skin. I was surprised to see David Heather breaking into the skin market, but I was pleasantly  surprised when I demo’d their first offering. Pleasantly enough, in fact, to buy the two lightest shades of it. This is the palest one, and it’s positively luminous. I also love the thin, neat brows on it.

And, lastly, onto the pants and boots. And, oh! be joyful! Jeans that don’t  have the crotch sagging southward! I do love a nice pair of well-done skinnies (emphasis on the “well-done”, because there are some out there that just… no) and these ones by ISON MAN are perfect. Be aware, though, that the boots are attached to the jeans; they’re not separates. Also, for some reason, this set is listed as “jumper set” when it should really be “jeans and boots set” or something. Bit odd, but hey.


Skin: David Heather – Dil (01) [ gianni.broda ]
– for the April Mens Dept collection

Sweater: Razor – Gutter Punk (black out) [ kehl.razor ]
– for the April Mens Dept collection

Jeans & Boots: ISON MAN – Jumper Set (black) [ harry.hyx ]
Note: These aren’t separates. The boots are attached to the jeans.
– for the April Mens Dept collection

Hair: Exile – Rise Above* (sin) [ kavar.cleanslate ]
– for Collabor88

Piercing: Random Matter – Chani Nose Chain (black/silver) [ nikohl.hax ]

Ring: Mandala – Lustful Jewelry Set [ kikunosuke.eel ]
– for the April Mens Dept collection

Necklace: Chaos, Panic & Disorder! – Unisex Celtic Cross Necklace [ lilah.munster ]

Eyes: IKON – Sovereign Eyes (grey) [ ikon.innovia ]

Makeup: The Skinnery – Nomad (3) [ umazuma.metaluna ]

Eyeliner: Nomine – Guyliner
No longer available.

Hands: Slink – AvEnhance Male Hands V2 (relax) [ siddean.munro ]

Nail Appliers: A:S:S – Slink V2 Nails (Black On Black)* [ photos.nikolaidis]

Poses: PDA
No longer available.

*review copy


Sticks and stones

“If you can’t say something nice, don’t say nothing at all.”
— Thumper

Double negatives aside (seriously, Walt; I’m blaming you for that epidemic of bad grammar) Thumper had it right. Sadly, certain sections of the interwebs don’t subscribe to the Wise Bunny school of philosophy, and that’s the theme of the meme this Monday.

Meme instructions: Answer the following questions either on your own blog, in the comments of this post or on any social platform.

Have you ever been subjected to mean comments online by strangers? If not, then skip to question #5.

More times than I’ve had proverbial hot dinners. Opinions are like arseholes; everybody has one, and some people enjoy exposing them, whether they’re wanted or not. In Second Life they mainly come in response to my looks, to my profile, or to my cuddling my boyfriend. More on that last one in a bit.

How did you respond to them?

If I’m out and about, I teleport away. If the abuse occurs in a store, then I always notecard the store owner, telling them what happened. If I’m at home, then it’s Freeze > Eject > Ban.

How did they make you feel?

It depends what form the abuse takes. The plain ol’ ignorant just makes me roll my eyes, but sometimes… yeah, there have been occasions where I’ve been really badly affected by things said to me. Mostly I try to let it roll off my back, and sometimes I’ll retaliate by pouring my anger or pain into building something inworld, like I did here.

Can you share some of the mean comments you’ve received and your thoughts on them?

  • “Ugh. Why can’t you just be NORMAL?” (said by some guy who just walked into our home when Daros and I were cuddling on the couch one day)
    Whose definition of ‘normal’ should I adhere to, if you please? Yours? But what about the next guy to tell me I’m abnormal? Shouldn’t I adhere to HIS definition or ‘normal’ instead? Should I flip-flop between the two of you, until a third guy comes along to tell me what I should be? Tell you what: you just fuck off back to Normo-Land, and I’ll stay gloriously gay-n-freaky with my beautiful boyfriend, ‘kay?
  • “You need to die of cancer.” (said by some guy when I was out shopping)
    Why, thank you. I guess that makes a change from “You need to die of AIDS.” I appreciate your originality.
  • “HEY FAGGOT! WHERE’S THE HAIR IN HERE?” (said by some guy in the Aitui store when I was out shopping)
    SinHUD :: Gay Sex :: Attached.
    Mmmm, well hello there, stud. Why don’t you make it worth my while telling you, huh?
    *swirly lights*
    /me pouts. Aww, he teleported out.
  • “I think he’s a pedophile.” (said about me by a child avatar in the Redgrave store when I was out shopping)
    Oh, I am fucking OUT of here.

Have you ever ridiculed or negatively commented on someone else’s work, actions or personality with the intention to hurt them?

Never with the deliberate intention of hurting someone, no (unless they’ve already hurt me and I’m lashing out in the immediate retaliation of that pain). Yes, I’ve privately joked about things, and I think that anyone who proclaims complete innocence in that sense… well, “Let he who is without sin,” and all that. I would never dream of saying something like that to someone’s face or in public, but yes, I’ll admit to taking the piss sometimes behind someone’s back. It’s usually pretty tame, though: along the lines of, “What on earth is s/he wearing?!” etc.

Further to Berry’s original post, I watched the Monica Lewinsky TED talk a few weeks ago, and was impressed with it. I’m going to raise it with another inspirational TED talk by another young woman who has been ridiculed all her life, for being “different” – Lizzie Valasquez: “I choose to be happy”.


Coat: Stitched – Martin (black) [ adele.bumblefoot ]

Hair: Exile – Electric Soul (raven)* [ kavar.cleanslate ]

Headdress: Zenith – Day of the Dead Skull & Flower Wreath [ miffyhoi.rosca ]

Piercings: Random Matter – Chani Nose Chain (black/silver) [ nikohl.hax ]

Skin: The Plastik – Immortalia (Ettore) [ aikea.rieko ]

Makeup: Nuuna – Yair Makeup (black) [ nuuna.nitely ]

Eyeshadow: KK – Sparkle Smokey Eyeshadow [ prits.loxely ]

Eyes: IKON – Sovereign Eyes (grey) [ ikon.innovia ]

Hands: Slink – AvEnhance Male Hands V2 (relax) [ siddean.munro ]

Nail Appliers: A:S:S – Slink V2 Nails (Morocco)* [ photos.nikolaidis ]
– new lucky chair item

Poses: GlamRus [ glamrus ]

*review copy

Me, Myself, and I

This week’s Monday Meme is a short and simple one, for which I’m profoundly grateful because life is a busy-busy thing at the moment (hence the dip in blogging over here).

Meme Instructions: Copy and paste the following statements in your post and complete them writing down the first thing that pops into your head. Don’t forget to link your post in the comments.

Since I don’t have time to log in, and I wanted a picture that I’ve not blogged or Flickr’d before, I went to my Firestorm AppData folder, dug around, and pulled out my screen_last; the last image of Skell before I logged off. It’s in .bmp format and it’s also much smaller than my usual screenshots (which I take at 5000 px) so it’s a little blurrier than usual, but hey. It’s me, as I last appeared inworld, and Me, Myself,* and I is the theme-o-the-meme, so to speak.

*Sorry, Berry. I’m a stickler for the Oxford (serial) comma! I didn’t put it on the header image purely because it offset the text too much :p

So, here’s moi, looking a bit out-of-focus and whatnot. Let’s call it Art, shall we? ;-)

And on to my answers:

I am… enjoying the gorgeous spring weather right now. All the windows in the house are flung wide open and the washing line is a-flap with laundry. This is my favourite season; full of hope and green things :-)

I want… a bit more motivation to do the stuff I know I should be doing. I have developed a terrible procrastination habit in recent years.

I have… a cup of tea. Always!

I wish… I could win the Lotto so I could make life easier (financially) for those that I love.

I hate… being in pain.

I fear… very little these days. I’ve changed my mindset about fear a great deal recently. See the video at the end of this reply. Even the fear of losing loved ones has gone, because… well it’s inevitable that I’ll lose them eventually, and I’ve already lost a lot of them. I’ve come to terms with that. When it’s time, it’s time, and—no matter how much it hurts to lose them—I think I’m in a place now where I can let them go peacefully. I don’t even fear death, because it’s simply going to sleep… and not waking up. Once you’re asleep you’re not aware  that you’re unconscious. Long, painful, terminal illness? Well that’s something that may or may not happen, so why be fearful of it now? If it happened, it would already be happening, and I would find a way to cope with it.

I search… for happiness. Don’t we all?

I wonder… what is  happiness? How do we define it? Most of the time we’re content and comfortable, but is that happiness? To me, happiness is in those “oh my GOD!” moments when we’re grinning from ear-to-ear and have to force ourselves not to jump up and down like a three-year-old. Watch this scene from The Pursuit of Happyness for a perfect example of that, and some truly wonderful acting from Will Smith:

I regret… nothing. Even the bad things that happened gave me an opportunity to learn from them. The abusive or nasty people that came into my life did so to teach me something, just like everyone else has. It’s up to me to find out what that lesson was.

I never… log out of Second Life without kissing Daros goodnight (assuming he’s online).

I always… have Chinese Whiteflower Oil (Pak Fah Yeow) in the house. Fabulous stuff for when you have a headache or you oversleep and wake up with a fuzzy head. Why so effective? Well, just look at the ingredients list and tell me these wouldn’t knock a headache out of the park: wintergreen oil, menthol oil, eucalyptus oil, peppermint oil, lavender oil, camphor. I discovered the stuff when I was a teenager, and I’ve never been without it since. Every home I’ve lived in, every job I’ve worked at; there’s a bottle of this stuff either in the house or in my desk drawer or locker. It lasts for ages, too.

I usually… write something every day. Blog, diary, fiction; it doesn’t matter what. There are words in my head and they need to get out!

I dance… less than I used to, because my knees are in bad shape thanks to some injuries when I was younger. But I mainly dance whenever I’m feeling down. To cheer myself up (well, actually, to make myself giggle like an idiot!) I’ll watch this 1974 Top of the Pops  performance of Mud’s Tiger Feet  and do the silly dance. By the end of it, I’m breathless, rosy-cheeked, and laughing like hell.

I sing… every chance I get. I have a pretty decent voice and I love singing. I don’t do it professionally; just around the house.

I often… play The Sims 3. I have all the expansion and stuff packs, and about 10GB of custom content. It’s cheaper (free, actually!) to build and furnish a house in TS3 than it is in SL, so I often get my interior decorating fix there. You’d be amazed what TS3 looks like when you use a lot of custom content. There’s actually a pretty close correlation with the “SL avatars look like crap” misconception back before the more recent default avatar changes, and the “Sims look like crap” misconception of TS3 Sims. Just as SL residents try to show that, actually, SL looks amazing, so there are many ‘Simmers’ out there who show that TS3 can look amazing, too. Here’s an example of a TS3 male sim featuring a lot of custom content, created by Momoichiru:

Sims 3 Sim by momoichiru.

Surprised? Yep!

I sometimes… look at the clock, and then don’t know what time it is. Then, I look at it again. And I still  don’t know what time it is. Yeah, you do it too; admit it! Watch this; you’ll identify completely  with practically all of these. WARNING: It’s George Carlin, so it’s NSFW ;-)

I cry… whenever I need to. It’s cathartic, so why not?

I need… some more groceries in the house. Time to go shopping. XD

I should… go and get the laundry off the line in a minute, so I will.

I love… Daros :-)

To build a home

This is a place where I don’t feel alone.
This is a place where I feel at home.

This week’s Monday Meme sees me in an introspective mood. Berry is asking “What is your perception of Second Life?” and she’s suggesting that we film a one-minute video of our favourite location inworld, and/or answer some questions as well.

Well, y’know, I can’t make a film of my favourite place in SL because he isn’t logged in right now <3

What I can  do, though, is write about (and dig up screenshots from ancient backup hard drive folders) some of those places I’ve called ‘home’ or hung out in a lot over the almost-eight years I’ve been inworld. I’ll answer the questions among the nostalgia, okay? :-)

When I first rezzed in SL it was off the back of a bad RL relationship. Consequently, when I was griefed three times within a few hours of logging in for the first time, I felt pretty raw. Daros encouraged me back, having rented a small plot of land in Jindalrae (a sim which we now almost completely own). This is what I logged on to:

He’d built me a home. A safe place to go to, high up in the air. A few days later that little home was swapped out for what we called The Safehouse: a skybox with bright stained glass windows and partitioned living areas. He built that, too.

When someone loves you enough to want to protect you and create a safe space for you, what else can that space be but ‘home’?

This was our first purchased home on that little plot of land: a beautiful open villa by Lily Lioncourt of Fire and Water.

The view from the porch, complete with tiny boyfriend in the distance.

What is your perception of Second Life?

My personal perception is of a place that is literally my second home. I feel as secure there as I do in my bricks-and-mortar home in real life. It’s a place where I can be creative, where I can bridge the 5000 miles between me and Daros and really feel as if he’s sitting right there with me. It’s something I’ve never managed to explain to anyone who has never logged in; that feeling of connection and association with your avatar. Logging into SL can feel like coming home and closing the front door after a long, hard day of slog at work. There have been nights when I’ve felt so comfortable—so right—logged inworld that I’ve stayed there while I slept in real life. As soon as Daros logs in we’re together, and I greet him with a kiss, and when I log off (or we both do) we kiss again before Ctrl-Q. Something would be missing from my life if I didn’t get those kisses.

Back to the homes, and this one is still in Jindalrae, albeit with the tower section now removed so the house is floating in space. We call it our Treehouse, and we’ve remodelled it so many times over the years.

The view is ‘see for miles’.

I added optional curtains and a warm fire later on, plus some furs and cushions to lounge on.

Down in the lower area, after Daros remodelled it several years ago with a lot of Moroccan-influenced furniture.

Do you feel the portrayal or reputation Second Life seems to have in the mainstream media is justified?

No, and it never has been. The pearl-clutching about “all the sex stuff” is ridiculous. There’s plenty of “sex stuff” in real life, and since SL is an alternate life… are we supposed to live like monks and nuns? Utter bullshit, and I’m calling it.

As for the other thing that SL residents are so sick  of hearing—why don’t you get a REAL life?—well we all have one of those as well. Given a choice between spending £50 inworld (an amount that will give me at least a whole month of enjoyment and pleasure, and sometimes longer) where I can be with my best friend and have a lot of fun, and spending £50 on a single night out (and, with prices the way they are these days, that’s scrimping) I know where I’d rather my money went. I explain to people that, just as they like to spend their money on those things, I like to spend mine in a virtual world.

“But you pay for things that don’t exist!” they say. “You don’t actually have them.”

“You pay for beer that you piss down the toilet within a couple of hours,” I tell them. “You pay for cigarettes that you set fire to. Those are just as transient as virtual goods.”

“But I enjoy the cigarettes and booze,” is usually the response to that.

“And you think I don’t enjoy time spent in a virtual world?”

They just can’t get their heads around it.

Back to the homes. The place I spend most of my time now is our Steampunk Tower, also in Jindalrae. I love warm autumnal tones, and I love steampunk. I’ve picked up little bits and pieces over the years that I’ve furnished this place with. We always spend Christmas here, and I deck it out with a tree, cards, lights; the works.

I sit and write here, too.

And this is what makes it really home for me.

Our other plot is in Star: a waterfront plot that looks out over the Sutherland Dam area. It’s one of only six (I believe) deep water regions in SL, going down 80 metres. We have homes on the ground, below the water, up in the sky (my vacation hacienda is up there), and a large dock house actually in  the water. This was the first underwater home I built there, some time back in 2007/8.

And this is the dock house. Again with the steampunk ;-)

Do you talk about your Second Life with your real life friends and family?

I’m not shy about it, and I’ll mention it if something is relevant to it in a conversation I’m part of. My mum doesn’t understand it (I told her I’d planted a beautiful garden in SL and she just said, “Why don’t you just work in your real garden?” Well, Mum, I do! I just like virtual gardening, too. No slugs, weeds, etc…)

As before, if I’m talking to a gamer then I usually get a better response than I do from someone whose idea of “gaming” is playing Candy Crush Soda Saga on their phone.

Let’s move on to some of my favourite places and old hangouts in SL, apart from “wherever Daros is.” Many of them are long-gone, because I’ve found that the places I’ve loved best didn’t make enough money to stay open. As much as SL is a place for creativity, if that creativity isn’t financially rewarded then it struggles to last. It’s a bitter irony, when you think about it.

We’ll begin with the first place that knocked my virtual socks off; somewhere I used to teleport to just to be  there and listen to the sounds around me: Airship Outpost. This was a ragtag bunch of shops high in the air, held aloft by rotors, giant blimps, steam vents, and the occasional rocket.

The second place where I spent a long time (and where I came into my love of always walking around places whenever I could, as opposed to flying or taking teleport boards) – The Block. This was an urban shopping sim, and it was the first place I came across that actually looked like a real city block. This was where my love of fashion shopping in SL took form. I bought from Mechanism, FORM, and Sinistyle (my first big SL purchase was L$650 or so on a long leather coat from there. I dithered for ages, then thought “fuck it” and hit ‘buy’).

Alchemy Immortalis, Empress & Heirophant, Ceangeal. Oh man, I spent so many hours just standing on those beautiful windswept hillsides and wandering around like Cathy from Wuthering Heights. I loved those sims so damn much.

What is your most favorite thing to do in Second Life?

I don’t really have a favourite thing, but I love it when I get into the flow of creating something and before I know it, hours have flown past. If Daros is online, then I love to sit with him while we chat about everything under the sun. And, of course, I love dressing up my Skelly pixel dolly ;-)

Another place that Daros and I used to go to a bit: the Forum Cartel Hangout. I believe it’s still there, but we stopped going a long time ago. It was formed by some regulars on the old forums and was a general place to go and sit and chat. If you were online alone and popped in there, it wouldn’t be long before someone spotted you on the HUD that all members had to show them someone was there, and you didn’t stay alone for long. They threw some great bashes at celebratory times. This shot was taken during a Halloween party.

But they do say that home is where the heart is, and my heart rests in that little safehouse back in Jindalrae :-)

And I’ll build a home for you, for me…

Then & Now

And you sway in the mood the way you did when you were younger.
When you told everybody, “All we need is now.”
Stay with the music, let it play a little longer.
You don’t need anybody; all you need is now.

This week’s Monday Meme is an interesting one, but I had to dig a bit deeper for it. Berry is asking us to compare our first blog photo with a more recent one. But, considering my first blog photos were these two—

—that, uh, isn’t very representative of much. ;-) Nor is it representative of when I started taking serious fashion shots, since I’ve only been blogging for about two years and I got into SL fashion about six years ago.

So I decided to hit up the one place where I’ve been plunking my fashion stuff since 2008 (well, the fashion stuff began in 2009) and that is Flickr.

Meme instructions: Share a side by side comparison of your first blog picture beside a recent picture of your avatar. Don’t forget to share the link to your image in the comments and add your pictures to the Blog Memes flickr group.

So here we go delving back to 9th March 2009 with what was arguably my first attempt at a ‘proper’ fashion shot.

I’d just discovered Aoharu (that’s where the shirt was from), and those Gaga ‘Fame’ shades that everyone was wearing at the time. I was living pretty much in my Excess skin and hair at that time (you’ll note that—if you follow me on Flickr—my user icon has always had white hair. That’s a relic from the days when my hair colours were either jet black or pure white). Back then we already had sculpts (note the collar and cuffs of the shirt, as well as the belt) and I was shopping at places like Armidi, Agrace, Aoharu, Aitui (all the As!), Meriken, Truth (remember when he also made clothing?!), and Redgrave.

Fast-forwarding to a similarly-stylish look that’s more recent, and well… it’s clear that mesh has had a big impact on fashion. This look was actually pretty simple: the suit was a one-piece from Gabriel. But it was those epaulettes that I added in a fit of madness that completely made  it. So I guess you could say I’ve got a lot  more inventive in my fashion choices in recent years. Mesh has actually aided me there, because—as the amount of mesh male clothing that interests me is dwindling, and all I can do is sigh wistfully at all the great stuff for the girls that I know I could never wear, because y’know, built-in tits and all that—I’m leaning more and more toward interesting accessories that I can do crazy things with to spice up an outfit.

But there are several sides to Skell and his fashion choices, and the androgyne look is never far behind anything he does. This is an early andro look from 20th August 2009:

Yep, that’s Maitreya female hair. I still wear it to this day, along with several other Maitreya styles I bought back then. The coat was by LeeZu! and I made the golden lace eye veil myself.

And moving forward? This is a very recent androgyne look:

Yeah, that’s an all-in-one black lace catsuit with a floufy feather coat over the top of it. Bonus heels underneath. When I glam it, I really  fucking glam it, my sartorial darlings ;-)

So, how have I grown as a blogger? Or, rather, as a fashionisto? I take far more risks than I used to, that’s the main thing. Once upon a time Skell’s fashion was stylish, yes, but also kinda… boring. I sometimes ask myself: was that because of what was out there back then? Because I did occasionally manage to find brilliant things, and when I did you can bet your life I finagled them into fashion looks. Here are a few examples of those early flutters of inspiration:

April 2009 I found this (free!) knitted clothing layer cardigan in the Demise stall at some large event or other. I nabbed it and, since I already had those shoes, I shoved a casual look together around it—

Who remembers the Dany French Touch store, with its exquisite  texturing? Now long-gone, I still miss that place. I picked up this suit and built a whole Dandy Highwayman look around it, also in April 2009—

(See what I mean about the white hair back then?)

So let’s move forward a bit and see how the styling goes…

In roughly 2010 I discovered Sey, and I must have lived in this look for several weeks after that—

Hippying the hell out in a fab L$10 pair of pants from Sn@tch that inspired this Woodstockian look in early 2011. I still love those pants—

Noticing something with most of these? Yeah, I’ve always white-backgrounded, and I still often do. It’s the best way to show off the clothing, rather than what I can do with Photoshop. I’m not knocking you Photoshoppers by any means, but I’d rather spend time on the look than in the graphics program.

March 2011, Skell downloads the Phoenix viewer and discovers multiple attachment points and makeup layers. WHEEEEEEEEEEE! *ahem* This pic was the start of my utter addiction  to SL fashion. I think there are something like three belts and two necklaces in that picture alone—

That was also before I hit the sliders and skinnied down a bit. I had thighs like hams back then ;-)

And soon after that there was this, inspired by Mother Monster’s Judas  song—

And this. Prim lashes, baby—

Yeah, I went kinda nuts. I love this shit; can’t you tell?

That was all the joy of clothing layers. I can’t do half as much of this now with mesh *sadface*

Anyway, let’s move into the next year and see how things progress…

2012 and mesh hit the grid. I got my first mesh hair and attended Menswear Fashion Week. Oh boy, did my wallet learn to cringe every MWFW thereafter-

(Yeah, I’m still white-backgrounding.)

Late 2012 and I finally had a computer that could handle shadows. Shadows and mesh, oh my god. Playtime just got a helluva lot more fun!

2014 and I’m shooting in the open skybox that I still use to this day. I started to pull away from the white backgrounds around here, but I’m moving back to them again of late.

Occasionally I’ll set up an entire background, as I did for this shoot—

At the end of 2014 I was back to the white backgrounds. I’m still not quite sure why this is my most-viewed picture ever, with almost 800 views. This outfit just came together in minutes. Strange; the stuff that takes us hours can glean very little attention, but the stuff that falls into place with no effort at all is what gets the clicks and pink stars on Flickr—

And now? Now we’re here, with two pictures taken from my recent blog posts for Futurewave—

And this shot, again from a Futurewave post. It was shot entirely on location at our new HASRA roleplay sim, and I wove a whole story around it. It’s still one of my favourite blog posts and photoshoots that I’ve ever done. You can read it here :-)

I’m not even going to think about offering a credits list, because seriously O.o However, if there’s anything you’re curious about, drop me a comment and I’ll try to dig out what it was and where I got it from.

Edited to add: What might be a fun challenge is to see just how much my own photography skills (as well as the new abilities we have with the viewer, such as shadows etc) would change those earlier looks. It might be fun to wear those old outfits again and re-shoot them, just to see how different are now.

Have you seen this man?

Nope, and you never will again! (Not if Skell has anything to do with it, anyway.)

I couldn’t get out of doing this week’s Monday Meme, my sartorial darlings, because I was the one who suggested it!

Meme instructions: Transform your avatar completely so that even your friends wouldn’t recognize you. Don’t forget to share the link to your image in the comments and add your pictures to the Blog Memes flickr group.

My original suggestion for this meme also had a secondary rule: You’re not allowed to change gender or species. Y’know, because I couldn’t make things too easy, right? The immediate thing most people would think of would be to switch to their opposite gender (assuming their avatar presents a binary gender in the first place). The second thing people might try is a complete change of species (thus a furry might become human, or vice-versa). The challenge is to change yourself completely within your usual gender and species limits.

I’ll admit I did feel somewhat for poor Deoridhe Quandry (who I probably put very much IN a quandary!) but c’mon, lil’ faerie lass; you can think of something awesome! ;-)

As for me. Well… this was Skell’s reaction to what I did:


Okay, well the avatar itself was easy. I picked up this full Lee Avatar  by TELLAQ at January’s Mens Dept. I got it mainly for the skins included (five, in total) but it also came with a shape and a suit. So I shoved Skell into the shape and skin #5, and he was okay with that.

See? He looks happy as a little fluffy spring lamb!

Oh yeah. Sure I’m happy. Look at my joyous smile.

Er, yeah. Like I said. Happy as… a… well.


Moving on! Skell’s hair is the Revolver  style, by Exile (hairbase also to match from Exile). And his eyes are the chocolate shade from IKON’s new Charm Eyes  range.

Don’t mind me. I’ll just wait until you fall asleep…

Uh… *buys a lock for the bedroom door* Moving onto the clothes—

Yeah. About those…

Well, you kind of needed to be wearing something nobody would ever recognise you in, lad! Something you would NEVER wear! Y’know; if anyone who reads this blog regularly saw you across a crowded room wearing that, they’d never in a million years think, “Oh, there’s Skell!”

So I, uh, well I had this outfit from Gizza sitting here. And, while it’s a great outfit in and of itself, it’s really not something you’d ever be seen dead in. Is it?

No, but you might…

Oh c’mon. Don’t be like that! It’s only a pair of baggy pants! I know you hate dropcrotch pants with the passion of a thousand fiery suns, but you don’t really  look like you’ve crapped yourself, y’know. C’mon, just give me one nice pose for the screenshot here. *pleading smile*

*sigh* FINE! You owe me. BIG TIME. You’re going to buy me some makeup and rhinestones after this. Right? *HARD STARE*

Yes! Yes! Anything! Makeup and rhinestones it is. Thanks, Skell! You’re a brick! *kisses*

I am SO dead. XD


Avatar: TELLAQ – Lee Avatar [ bahattin.bruh ]

Full Outfit: Gizza – Tribal Outfit (black)* [ giz.seorn ]
Sorry, Giz. I love ya really! Baggies just really ain’t Skell’s thing ;-)

Hair: Exile – Revolver (raven) [ kavar.cleanslate ]

Eyes: IKON – Charm Eyes (chocolate)* [ ikon.innovia ]


– Agapee [ argnit.igaly ]

– CheerNo Motion [ sinystra ]

– Alchemy Immortalis [ immortalis.cyannis ]

*review copy

Lifelong process

Today’s Monday Meme, my sartorial darlings, is all about what Second Life has made us learn. Learning is a lifelong process, and—while it may not seem obvious that you’re learning something—you’re doing it every day of your life, in some way or another.

I’ll be illustrating this with some steampunky images, featuring new releases from A:S:S Decades and IKON, plus some of my own creations, as that’s kind of relevant to this post.

Meme instructions: Share things that you have learned because of your involvement in Second Life, either personally or professionally. Don’t forget to leave a link to your post in the comments so others can come by and read your answers as well!

1. 3D Modelling
I guess this one’s a given for anyone who has built anything in SL. 3D Modelling doesn’t have to mean full CAD software or programs like Maya or 3DMax; the built-in SL tools are also 3D modelling, and both Daros and I started making stuff within a few months of arriving in SL. I still have some very old screenshots of my early stuff, created way back in 2007. I didn’t have a clue what I was doing, and most of my early creations came about from experimentation and simple play. “What does this do? Oh wow, I like that!” etc.

The table and chair set, lower-left, is the very first thing I made in SL. To anyone who came in recently it will look amateurish and laughable, but back then it was incredible that we could do this stuff. We could make things, let our imaginations run riot, and then even sell these things!

And I’m about to start (finally!) learning Blender, now that I’ve found a set of tutorials that I fully enjoy watching, that explain things simply and clearly.

OK, old pictures out of the way, and let’s move on to the new stuff.

2. Running a business
In the real world I’ve always worked for other people, until very recently. In SL, though, I’ve been able to run a business. Sure, to me it’s more of a hobby that I pick up and put down, and I don’t give it as much attention as I probably should do, but nonetheless I make things, I market them, I sell them, etc. I use update groups and Subscribe-o-matics, I create ad images, I write (hopefully!) entertaining notecards that draw potential customers in to buy new releases, etc.

3. Dealing with rude people.
Unfortunately, as Berry noted in her original post, the internet affords some people the cover to be pretty damned unpleasant to others. As a business-owner I’ve been on the receiving end of extremely-rude customers at times, and as an avatar-at-large (particularly one that doesn’t tend to follow the visual ‘norm’ expected of a male) I’ve been subjected to some nasty comments from other avatars in general.

Out-and-about, if I get abuse, I usually ignore it. I’ll mute that person and move on. If it’s severe or I’m being physically bumped into, I’ll teleport out, and—if it’s in a store—I’ll contact the owner to let them know, as I did this one time in Redgrave where I was called a paedophile by two child avatars just because of ‘the gay thing’. I’ve had guys come up to me in stores and scream, “HEY FAGGOT, WHERE’S THE HAIR IN HERE?” and both Daros and I have had guys walk into our home when we’re cuddling and say, “Ugh! Why can’t you just be normal?” I’ve had people telling me they hope I die of cancer (makes a change from AIDS, I guess) and… yeah. It doesn’t happen all that often, but when it does I tend to withdraw and go into a building frenzy. The last time some idiot subjected me to homophobic abuse I retaliated by making a glammed-out and proud freebie skybox. It’s still available at my store and on marketplace, if you want something blue and gold and OTT to use as a backdrop, or to live in.

However, as a business-owner I can’t afford to ignore people. A person receiving good, polite service may tell one or two friends (or, more usually, nobody at all) but a person receiving rude or unsatisfactory service will tell every damn person they know. It’s not worth the risk of upsetting someone when their opening gambit to you is along the lines of: “I bought XYZ from you and WTF? Is this a joke?”

Yes, that actually happened. The person concerned hadn’t read the Marketplace listing correctly and was upset that a fully-enclosed skybox didn’t have a door. I ended up refunding them the L$50 they’d paid, and I bit my tongue on the “next time, READ THE FUCKING LISTING!” that I really wanted to say.

4. Fashion.
Okay, maybe a bit of an odd one, but I wasn’t rezzed this stylish, y’know ;-)

There was a time when I played it (mostly) safe in my fashion choices inworld, and it wasn’t until I started using the then-Phoenix viewer and discovered multiple attachment points that I went gung-ho with the fashion. The first outfit that I put together using all of this new stuff (I recall at the time I could also use tattoo makeup layers around then, too) was a crazy thing, overloaded with about three belts, two necklaces, and a big flowery eye patch.

5. How to say ‘no’ and not feel bad about it.
And it gets even weirder, I know. Two things work against me with regard to learning that:

  1. I’m that person who’ll chat to anyone (I strike up conversations at bus stops, although these days I usually just get glanced at before the person I’m talking to goes back to playing Candy Crush on their phone or updating their Facebook status to “some nutter’s trying to talk to me, omg leave me alone!”) and then—when the friendship offer comes—it makes for a very awkward moment where I have to refuse. I have my own personal reasons for doing this. My friends list is reserved for Daros, Rannon, and our alts. I’ve been the victim of too many attention-whore ‘friends’ in SL (we’ve all known at least one, and one is one too many) as well as people who add you and then never speak to you again, so now I always say no. I’ve even removed designers who added me to make it easier for them to contact me, purely because when I decided I would cull my list I really meant it.
  2. I’m English and I naturally find it awkward and difficult to just come out and refuse a friendship offer. I mean, someone is being friendly, right? And if I’m refusing it, I’m pretty much telling them “no thanks” to their friendship. Okay, I know that’s labelling it with the internet definition of ‘friend’ (which usually means “person you’ve spoken to for a few minutes” or “someone whose updates you want to follow”) but still; ‘friend’ is an emotive word, and while the list in the viewer is called ‘Contacts’ the default friendship offer—which most people don’t change—still reads something like “Would you be my friend?”.

So now I simply steel myself and come out with something like, “No offense, but I’ll have to refuse. It is  in my profile that I don’t accept any friendship offers. I keep my list very tight; just my boyfriend, and one other person.” If they wanted to friend me so they could contact me at a later date (say, they’re a content-creator or manager of a store and I’ve asked them to check something) then I’ll offer to send them a calling card they can use to get in touch with me instead. (A little hint there: when doing anything that could be construed as negative, always offer a positive or another solution.)

6. A fascination with how things are made.
I kind of always had this (as a kid I had loads of those “How Things Work” books) but these days I walk around daily life and look at things, and I wonder how the hell they could be made in SL. I’d walk past a row of terraced houses and think, “I like the look of that little porch; wonder how many prims that would be?”, and I’d keep staring at it, mentally breaking it down into cubes, tapering, shearing, and suchlike. It’s added a new layer to how I look at the world.

I guess SL has probably taught me a lot more than that, but those are the things I can think of off the top of my head.


Outfit: A:S:S Decades – Laurence (black)* [ photos.nikolaidis ]

Boots: Schadenfreude – Amargosa Boots (darkness) [ allegory.malaprop ]

Hair: Monso – My Hair (Matthew – black/brown) [ morphine.janick ]
– at The Mens Dept

Bracelet: NOMAD – Bound Wings Bracelet (silver) [ piraiyah.novikov ]
– at Men Only Monthly

Eye Patch: Pixel Box – Steampunk Monocle [ marian.kungler ]

Pocket Watch: Pixel Box – Steampunk Clock and Key [ marian.kungler ]

Brooch: Eclectica – Blenheim Baroque Brooch [ tiffy.vella ]

Eyes: IKON – Charm Eyes (quicksilver)* [ ikon.innovia ]

Skin: Æros – Javier (praline) [ pi.rain ]

Beard: Æros – Beard (scruffy soft) [ pi.rain ]

Hands: Slink – AvEnhance Male Hands (relax) [ siddean.munro ]

Fireplace: Ex Machina – Vulcano Fireplace [ hatris.panacek ]

Furnace: Ex Machina – Vulcano 2 [ hatris.panacek ]

Armchair: 22679 [bauwerk] – Tufted Armchair* [ paco.pooley ]

End Table: Kastle Rock Home – Accent Table (wooden) [ spooky.mistwallow ]

Lamp: 22769 [bauwerk] – Industrial Floor Lamp (resized)* [ paco.pooley ]

Building: Domicile – Steam Hunt Special from Steam VI  [ skell.dagger ]
– no longer available

Painting & potted palm: Domicile – Steam Hunt Special from Steam IX [ skell.dagger ]
– no longer available

On fireplace: Domicile – Rotational Fascinator [ skell.dagger ]
– no longer available

*review copy


“I just wondered, did you ever…?”

Did you ever—?
Not so much that you could notice.
Well could you estimate how many—?
Eight or nine.
Will you do it any more—?
As soon as you walk out the door.
Well I just wondered, did you ever—?
All the time.

Nancy Sinatra, gotta love her (even if she did go all country on ya with this one).

It’s Monday Meme time again, and this week Berry is wondering Have You Ever SecondLifed?

Meme Instructions: Copy and paste the following questions and answers to your post, delete my answers and input your own. Don’t forget to leave a link to your post in the comments so others can come by and read your answers as well!

Have you ever owned a sim in Second Life? –

Not an entire sim in its own right, but between owning most of Jindalrae and a large plot on Star I do hold (and pay for) an entire sim of tier, with its attendant 20% VAT >.<

Have you ever created content in Second Life? –

Yes, of course, and I’ve been doing so since pretty much my first year inworld. Together with Daros and Rannon I run the Gentlemen Bastards group of stores, with my stores being Domicile (homes and gardens) and—to a lesser extent—INDUSTRIA (piercings).

Have you ever driven a vehicle in Second Life? –

If it’s wider than a bike I won’t touch it. I’m a terrible  driver when it comes to cars, trucks, planes etc. Give me a sweet little motorbike, though, and I’m happy as a cricket because the road is more forgiving and I can drift to my heart’s content.

Have you ever gone sky diving in Second Life? –

I’ve fallen off enough build platforms to say ‘yes’ to that, but officially? I think I can remember going hang-gliding once or twice, but not sky diving,

Have you ever played a sport in Second Life?

I have zero interest in RL sport and consequently I have zero interest in SL sport.

Have you ever gone clubbing in Second Life?

In the past, yes, a lot more than I do lately. I honestly don’t remember the last time I put my gladrags on and shook my butt in an SL club, actually.

Have you ever fangirled/fanboyed someone in Second Life?

Not seriously, no. I think we’ve all that that “Oh look, well-known designer/SLebrity in the pixel!” frisson when we spot them out and about, but I don’t necessarily fanboy them. I recall my first ever well-known designer-spotting episode, though: it was Tesla Miles, quite a number of years ago now.

I’ve been  fangirled, though. That was an… interesting experience, I can tell you O.o

Have you ever taken a picture of your avatar in water in Second Life?

Haven’t we all? Numerous times. I took quite a lot when that mirror water hack was blogged about a few years back. Examples below:

Have you ever taken a picture of a sunset in Second Life? –

Up until Windlight, no. After Windlight, yes. I still love catching those few seconds of a Windlight sunset over water, where everything just turns blazing hot pink.

Have you ever taken a nude picture of your avatar in Second Life?

*side-eye* This is me you’re talking to. Of course I have. I’ve made whole porny slideshows in SL, but the only person who gets to see them is Daros :p

This is about as close as you lot will ever get to seeing Skell completely in the buff:

Have you ever dated in Second Life?

No, because I came into SL with  Daros. I’ve never needed to date inworld.

Have you ever had or attended a wedding in Second Life?

I’ve attended a couple, and of course Daros and I got married inworld, too. Ours was something of an, er, unconventional wedding, though. This was the invite (yes, featuring my butt in a miniskirt) –

And, before I receive hate mail from those who live in (or grew up in) a trailer park; our wedding was intended to be a light-hearted little poke at the worst trashy trailer park stereotypes you can think of, not trailer park living in general.

And here’s the happy couple, solemnly approaching the altar. Thanks to Brann for these pics (I was too busy laughing my ass off to take many photos!). Yes, Skell was dragged to the altar by his hair. The guy marrying us was wearing a stetson and carrying a shotgun. I was Norma-Mae and Daros was Big Dawg XD

Exchanging vows *happy sniffle* –

Silencing hecklers –

And here’s Maureen (who played the part of Ruby-Mae) gettin’ on down (sign-placement deliberate!) after the ceremony, with me and Daros having a slow-dance-smooch in the background –

Much fun was had ;)

Have you ever drank, smoked or taken drugs in Second Life?

Yes to all three. Interestingly, Skell smokes like the proverbial chimney, but I don’t smoke IRL.

Have you ever engaged in sexual activity in Second Life?

I think this counts as a “Well DUH!” answer. Of course.

Have you ever been to Bukkake Bliss in Second Life?

My irony-meter just went PING!PING!PING! Actually, no I haven’t. Bukkake ain’t my kink :p

Aaaand Skell is embedding a country song  into a blog post. THE WORLD IS ENDING!


Un homme dans une gare desolee,
une valise a ses cotes.
Deux yeux, fixes et froids,
montre de la peur lorsqu’il.
Se tourne pour se cacher.

One of my icons has boarded the Night Train. Fare thee well, Steve Strange. Thank you for making ‘weird’ so wonderful, and thank you for the inspiration over the years.